Fear & Makevember #makevember no.3
I want to address something about Makevember. Its partially about fear. There are a number of fears that I think it brings out in people, well okay, I’ll be honest, that it brings out in me. (These aren’t in any particular order, just the order they occur to me as I think on the fly).
The fear of wasted time - This isn’t going to be that good, it’s going to take longer than I thought and I could be doing almost anything else, even something productive.
The fear of being exposed as a fraud - I am actually very very good at making X, so good it’s easier for me to do, but in makevember I am supposed to make Y and if people see me make a bad Y they’ll say I make a bad X or they’ll doubt that I can really make as good an X as they think or worse they’ll realise I’m not always that good at making an X either and they’ll know I’m a fraud.
The fear of being not as good - Everyone else’s makevembers just look so much better. They’re all saying this was a quick make and it was super easy or whatever and really that looks way better than what I think I can do so why would I enter this and know I’m not that good?
The fear of exposing yourself as a fraud to yourself - This really doesn’t look that good, I can see its rubbish and I don’t want people to think that I think this is something I should be so proud of that I’m going to share it.
The fear of your worst critic - You get that sinking feeling again, this isn’t as good as I’d hoped and that critic I hate is going to make me feel bad about it. Easier not to try at all.
The fear people will enjoy it wrong - You did a thing and it meant something to you in particular, then that other person made a Dad joke about it and it all changed and now the thing you had one set of feelings about has become something else you didn’t want to put into the world.
Well that’s enough fears to be going on with. Part way through writing them out I realised I’m only naming them and not saying how to overcome them. I really don’t know if I have a bit of pithy advice on that. I know that the fear of what other people think about what you put out is pretty meaningless one, you should be far more afraid that no-one will notice at all.
That’s it. The timer just went off. I’d love to get some feedback on these posts.
Makevember blog no.3